Can You Truly Stop Loving Someone You Once Loved Deeply ? "UNLOVE"

"No matter how much suffering you went through, you never wanted to let go of those memories." -Haruki Murakami.

These are not only the lines to read you can feel the emotions behind this line express that even if we end your immense pain in a relationship the memories associated with it remains so dear to us that we are unwilling to let them go. Despite the sorrow, those memories stay close to our heart because there was love in them regardless of how it all ended. 

Now the question arises whether it is possible to undo the love for someone, love is far more than a fleeting emotion, people describe this as an attachment which is not only connecting two people but they saw a part of ourselves reflected in them, This attachment or we can say this love shapes how we see the world and ourself as well. When love enters our lives then it rearrange or completely change our inner world or inner landscape, so the memories emotions and feelings become inseparable for us, these bonds are quite fragile when the connection or relation breaks or frays this. the pain is not only about losing a person but also about the losing a part of ourself.

Loving someone is not a one time feeling it starts growing organically so when this bond breaks it affects us with the same intensity and with the same depth. Love is not only about the presence of a person, it resides in the moments we spent together, making memories, the dreams we built and the most important thing the habit of that person that becomes a part of our daily life. When we try to forget someone then unknowingly we are going to leave some part of ourselves that is why unloving someone became an emotional challenge for us. 

Unloving someone may sound easy but there is no switch for the love to turn off when we talk about this word "unlove" we only thought about forgetting, replacing or detaching, but in actual it hard to undo things. 

Suppressing love may numb the pain temporarily but it often re-surfaces in different unexpected ways- In memories, in silence or in the ache of absence. 

"Unloving" is actually learning to love differently with less expectations, less attachments and more acceptance.  When heart break strikes, people often terms to various strategies many try to bury their feelings, convincing themselves that the love was not real or that the person was unworthy, few jumps into new relationships, some starts WRITING BLOGS, keeping overly busy or seeking constant entertainment. This detachment may bring temporary relief but emotions stands to resurfaces. Here what matters is not how quickly we move on but how honestly we heal.

So if someone asks - is it possible to unlove someone?

Say Yes- If by unloving we mean losing the grip of emotional dependency, reclaiming the self and allowing love to transform into peace not by shutting off the heart, but by opening it again this time for yourself.

So,"BE THE LOVE YOU SEEK BECAUSE THE DESTINY OF EXPECTATIONS IS TO BE BROKEN" - Vinay Sharma

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